Sign of the Times: What the Harry Styles Incident Can Teach Us

This morning I woke up to the news that singer, Harry Styles, was groped while performing on stage last night. The perpetrator, I believe, was a young female fan. First, let me just say, that this is not acceptable. However, what strikes be odd is the outrage all over Twitter from women AND men. Women have put up with this crap since the beginning of time - but now it happens to a man in the public spotlight and men are offended?! GOOD, they should be. 

To play devil's advocate for a moment, I can't count on my fingers how many times I have jokingly said to both men and women that women should start treating men as mere sex objects. We should leer, make inappropriate comments as they walk by, and maybe cop a feel as we brush past them. And, EVERY time I have made this snide comment, I have been met with the same response - from both sexes. Men would love that! 

Maybe this young woman from the concert incident last night just learned her behavior from the men in her life or stories in the media of powerful men harassing and assaulting women. Or, maybe Styles' pants were too tight, making it irresistible for the young woman to control herself. 

Listen, of course this behavior is disgusting and unacceptable. However, I didn't see the same outrage on social media when Taylor Swift's backside was grabbed by a fan during a photo shoot. In fact, I didn't hear anything about that until she filed a lawsuit against the jerk. Then, most of the comments were about how Swift was overreacting. UGH! 

Exasperating this culture are women, yes, I said WOMEN, who make dumbass comments such as Representative Eddie Bernice Johnson who came out this past week and said this ridiculous statement:  

“I grew up in a time when it was as much the woman’s responsibility as the man’s — how you were dressed, what your behavior was,” Ms. Johnson, 81, said. “I’m from the old school that you can have behaviors that appear to be inviting. It can be interpreted as such. That’s the responsibility, I think, of the female." (Read complete article here.) 


So to all the Harry Styles of the world who have had their crotch, or breast, or ass grabbed by a total stranger, I apologize on behalf of the human race who seems to have lost any remaining decency. However, I refuse to give up the hope that the culture can be changed. 



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